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Valentine’s Day – Love and Food

Sarmalove

I’ve not posted in months.  For anyone who gives a crap, SORRY!  If I could do what I want to do, I’d have more time to do exactly this, because it’s fun, among other reasons.  I have pages and pages of blog postage that I spit out over the last few months and then just never seemed to find time to pull together and now it feels very outdated.  Not to mention, I just get embarrassed and feel like… really?  does anyone really give a shit about what I ate for breakfast?  Really? But maybe I’ll tidy it up, pull it together and throw it out there, why not. Someone encourage me please and I’ll do it.

Here's something I wrote on Valentine's day:

Valentine’s Day!!  It can be kind of like New Year’s Eve… too much expectation which leads only to disappointment.  Here’s what I’ve learned: don’t expect anything.  Then you’ll never be disappointed.  Rely on yourself.  Love yourself.  And everyone else, but really, if you don’t treat yourself well, why should anyone else?  Anyone who knows me and is reading this will be shouting things about pots and kettles calling each other black, whatever that saying is… because I’m told constantly I need to take better care of myself - but who takes their own advice anyway? 

This whole sappy ‘loving yourself’ bit ought to tie in nicely with the whole raw food/lifestyle theme - of eating well and all of that, but that feels obvious to me.  Or am I just used to it?  But it really should be obvious, no?  Eat really good organic fresh food – anything else in excess is just slow self destruction.  That’s bolder than what I usually say, but really, it’s true.  Green juice and salads are my comfort food.

My last post was all about how shitty and fat I was feeling… in a very time and energy wasting, silly female kind of way.  I’m just being honest.  Some days I’ve felt great, other days, I’ve been a bit less than secure, almost feeling like I don’t deserve anything because, really, if you don’t look good why should anyone love you?  OH dear.  Did I just let that out??  Anyway, seems that some of us learn, through all sorts of subtle means, personal experiences and other feedback, that it’s all about how you look.   Well, not really.  No really.  Really?  What it really is, is confusing as hell.  Rationally you know it’s not the case, but then those feelings seep in, lured into our consciousness by the things we read, see, perceive around us.  But what I’ve been figuring out is that there is quite a bit of power in what you feel inside and project outward.  I think.  Or at least that’s what I tell myself.  That doesn’t mean I’m going to stop obsessing about wanting to drop additional poundage.  But what so happens is that the less I obsess about it, the more that weight seem to just naturally dissolve.  Easier said than done.  More on this some time later.  OH yes, and being in love helps too (trying to stick with the theme here).  Being loved back by the person you love can fill you up so you’re not hungry.  That and it’s distracting in the best possible way - and of course, some people eat excessively either out of boredom, procrastination or specifically to distract themselves from something that is more difficult to face.  I’ve done the latter two a lot, but I think I’ve learned from it, finally.  And these days, I’ll just say I’m distracted in the best possible way, and so happy for it. 

This holiday of sorts can suck hard if you’re without a clearly designated Valentine - but only if you let it.  It’s pretty great if you can be happy with your self enough to also be happily single.  Still, hard to do if you sometimes feel all sorts of insecurity.  Or if you’ve been burned.  Or if you’ve been burned in a way that’s made you so cynical about love that you put your heart away in a lockbox.  Can anyone say that word anymore without thinking of Al Gore, or is it just me?  OK back to what I was saying.  Hard to be a cheerful soul on this lovey-dovey holiday if you’re so angry and hardened and don’t trust anyone.  It’s hard to look back at having been in love when you realized it wasn’t really forever like you thought it was, and you ended up in pain over it.  Life isn’t easy, nor should it be, because really, then it would be totally boring and what could be worse than a boring life?  Which is why people should embrace pain… sounds a bit twisted but pain is living, and living is good.  I’ve noticed that if you accept pain and allow it to fill you up, the easier it dissipates.  Who am I to say this, and where is this coming from??  I should be writing about peace, love and raw food, not pain!

So back to love:  When you’re in love, make sure you love that person for who they are, not what they do for you, or what you want them to be, or do, or how you want them to make you feel.  Love without expectations.  Love without worrying so much about the future.  It feels really good that way.  And love all the people around you out of compassion.  Love people who don’t know better.  Love even people who are not nice to others, because those people are probably in pain.  Find a way to fill yourself up and feel secure enough to open your heart.  That’s when the good stuff happens.  Love makes the world revolve.  Put it out there and it comes back to you.  And it feels nice.  Happy Valentine’s Day.  Eat well. 

Sarma

Comments

Elena

Sarma! love your book. Love your restaurant. Love the raw macadamia cheese. You are awesome, I just wish you didn't include alcohol as part of the raw food lifestyle. I am two years alcohol free. As a single woman, I think it is the single most important lifestyle change I have made. I've never felt more in control of my life, and encourage all women to do the same. We can eat all the good stuff we want, but how can we 'get the glow' if we are still drinking a poison that bloats us, weakens our self control and ultimately snuffs out that 'glow' the next morning.

matisse

First time on here and I was just wondering what the hell is going on? I mean the underlying tone of everyone in here seems to be one of questioning? Questioning if your on the "right path", questioning if you should take a certain supplement and so on. I'm just surprised at the lack on intelligence on these websites. How can somebody follow this sometimes called "guru" and believe what she says or does. I'm sure working at a financial institution enlightened her with the ability to preach a message she hasnt even began to comprehend. People, I have a loved one doing a raw foods diet at this moment. She used to be beautiful with her long flowing hair, sensuous skin, and her womanly curves. But now after a year doing a raw food diet her skin is a color best described as an unhealthy gray, her hair is dry,thinning and is receding, and I can see and know that she is at an unhealthy weight. Sure she eats her nuts and lettuce and takes her supplements,(which I'm sure is the best way to go,instead of real food!) but I believe that she gets to many half truths from Sarma and the whole raw food community. It sounds more like a cult with a dim witted leader (that seems to have enough of her own problems,from her mouth no mine)then a healthy way to live. I'm a vegan but I don't follow the words or wisdom of some other vegan, I do it for myself,and for the enviroment. One more thing, I'm healthy, unlike what I've seen from the results of this diet fad. So to all of you, good luck.

Stephen Parker

Sarma, honey, give yourself a break. I give a shit what you had for breakfast! It helps us all to know what we're eating for breakfast in lieu of eggs, bacon, hash browns, and pasteurized oj. Thanks for keeping all that sumptuous raw food coming out of 54 Irving Place.

Wendimere Reilly

Keep blogging, the more frequent the better. Don't fret over the grammar or even bother with complete sentences. Save that for your next book and let the copy editors worry about it. But please, DO TELL US, what did you have for breakfast?

Healthy Regards,
Wendimere Reilly

Eileen

Elena, Sarma never appointed herself as a guru. She is just sharing her experience and what works for her. It is up to us to decide if we appreciate the information or not. I am sorry your sister is not doing well. Perhaps eating nuts and lettuce and supplements isn't the best way to go. No one says you have to eat supplements to be a raw foodist. They are "supplementary" to a healthy diet. Perhaps your sister is not eating enough dark greens and perhaps hse is eating too many nuts. There are many unhealthy raw foodists who are not eating correctly. Don't blame Sarma...don't blame raw foods...figure out what your sister's problem is.

Shradha

LOVE IT!
it's so..
raw.

David Nutt

Valentine’s day 2010

In this year of 2010 let us all focus on the meaning of this auspicious day honouring lovers. It is celebrated by expressing affection and sometimes the declaration of unrequited love; concentration is required and touches of delicate attentions are the order of the day.
The enjoyment of natures’ gifts surrounded by one’s loved ones is the foundation of our family lives. A step towards this state of bliss is the Valentine’s Day candle lit, intimate dinner.
At this point the choice of what food is served accompanied by a judicious selection of the wine is of the utmost importance. Ideas that instantly come to mind are: simple, seductive, succulent and fortifying. Cheese!
“Cheese is the soul of the soil. It is the purest and most romantic link between humans and the earth.” Pierre Androuet.
To ensure the evening is memorable I suggest a book of poems and recipes (www. Tastingtoeternity.com) inspired a selection of French cheese, a country known for lovers.



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